How to Get Pregnant Fast by Understanding Natural Fertility
- Irena Lenc
- Jun 1
- 10 min read
If you're over 35 and asking yourself how to get pregnant, especially how to get pregnant fast, you are not alone. So many women ask themselves this question, often in isolation. And when the answers aren’t clear, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by advice, confused by your body’s signals, or even quietly wonder, “Why am I not getting pregnant?”
As you know, I’ve been there. My own fertility journey was long and difficult. I tried for a baby for three and a half years, and I went through every emotional stage you can imagine, from hope and enthusiasm to tears of despair, and back again.
Now that I’ve made it through to the other side, I’m not afraid to admit that I made all the mistakes one can make, including the biggest one: I jumped into trying for a baby without understanding how natural fertility works.
At the time, I wasn’t medically trained. Now I am. I’m an Acupuncturist and Chinese medicine Nutrition therapist, and I help women aged 35 and over to assess and improve their fertility naturally. I’m also a mum to a little boy named Leon, who was conceived naturally.
That journey changed everything, and it's the reason I created Conceive with Confidence, an online course designed to fill the gaps with natural fertility knowledge while empowering you to take back control over your fertility. Do you know how this course came about? I realised, both through my own experience and years of working with women, that the problem of conceiving really starts.
We were all given a clumsy sex education class at around age 11, where we were too young to absorb anything. From that point, we spent years doing everything not to have babies. Then suddenly, in our thirties, when we decide we’re ready, we’re left trying to piece together a theory of how the natural fertility really works.
It can feel embarrassing to admit that we don’t have a clear understanding of how our own bodies work. And to make it worse, we're bombarded with so much conflicting fertility advice, mixed with hearsay and half-truths, that it’s hard to know what to trust.
That’s why I created this guide: to strip away the confusion, give you the clarity I wish I had, and walk you through how natural fertility really works so you can boost your chances of conception with confidence.
So grab a cup of tea, settle in, and let’s get started.
How to Get Pregnant Fast Starts With Understanding Your Fertility
A question my clients often ask me is, “How can I get pregnant fast?” as though there’s a trick to outsmart biology. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my journey and years of working with clients, it’s this. The fastest way to conceive is to understand the intricacies of your body and work with it, not against it. That’s the heart of what I teach in Conceive with Confidence, which challenges a lot of what we’ve been told.
We’ve been led to believe that fertility is about luck or age alone. In truth, it’s about rhythm. It’s about tuning into your cycle, knowing when you ovulate, understanding your hormones, and giving your body the support it needs to do what it’s designed to do.
To get pregnant fast, you must first learn how to get pregnant. That means understanding your anatomy, hormones, and the natural rhythms guiding conception. Most of us were never taught this properly.
The 3 Stages to Understanding How to Get Pregnant Naturally
Let me break it down the way I do inside the course because learning how to get pregnant fast starts with a clear understanding of how your body works, what it’s telling you, and what to do next.
In Conceive with Confidence, we move through three stages: Define, Diagnose, and Deliberate.
Stage 1: Define – Understand Your Fertile Body
Ovulation isn’t just a date on the calendar. It’s a process, not an event. Only about 5% of women actually ovulate on day 14, so if your cycle doesn’t match that number, you're not broken, you’re just normal. In this stage, I walk you through how conception really happens, so you can work with your cycle, not guess your way through it.
Here’s what’s happening in a healthy cycle:
Your cervical canal opens during your fertile window, allowing sperm to enter freely. You can even check this yourself: if it feels soft like your lips, it’s open; if it feels firm like the tip of your nose, it’s closed.
Cervical mucus becomes clear and stretchy, creating a nourishing environment where sperm can survive for 4 to 6 days.
Oestrogen gradually rises inside your body. When it reaches the right level, it thickens the endometrial lining, stimulates the fertile mucus, and triggers the Luteinising Hormone (LH) surge, which causes ovulation.
It’s all beautifully coordinated and works great when your hormones are balanced. I can teach you how to pay attention to the signs.
Stage 2: Diagnose – Let’s Look at Your Cycle
Now that you know what healthy fertility looks like, it’s time to look at your individual circumstances. This is the part of the course where we pause and do some gentle diagnosis, because real insight comes from tuning into your body, not just learning about it.
I break it down into three simple steps:
Step 1: Your Cycle
Ask yourself:
Is your cycle regular?
How long is it, typically?
Are you aware of when you ovulate?
Take your time here. If it helps, jot these answers down. This is exactly the kind of reflection I guide you through in the course handout.
Step 2: Your Hormones
Now, think about how you feel during your cycle.
What does your cervical mucus look like at different times of the month?
Based on that and your symptoms, what do you observe about your oestrogen and progesterone levels?
Remember, it’s not about getting it “right " but about building a picture in which every observation matters.
Step 3: Your Red Flags
Finally, list any red flags that have been on your mind. This might include:
Painful, heavy, or irregular periods
Mid-cycle spotting
Vaginal discomfort
Low libido
Cycles that are too short or too long
Whatever it is, write it down. This step isn’t here to worry you. It’s here to help you take the next steps with clarity, not confusion.
If you notice any of these patterns or deviations, they offer valuable insight into your hormonal health. This is the heart of learning how to get pregnant, because it replaces doubt with real-time understanding.
Stage 3: Deliberate – Take Clear, Informed Action
Understanding your cycle isn’t enough. You need to know what to do with that information. This final stage is where we map out how to get pregnant fast by aligning your lifestyle with your body’s natural design.
We look at:
When to time intercourse based on your actual ovulation, not a textbook model
How to adjust your habits, such as sleep, stress, and nutrition, to support conception
And how to respond when something seems off, rather than panic
Ultimately, this course isn’t about perfection but forging a partnership with your body, cycle, and natural fertility. When you understand your rhythm, you stop second-guessing and start making decisions that support conception.
Remember, this isn’t just biology. It’s self-knowledge, and it changes everything.
Why Am I Not Getting Pregnant? Spotting the Red Flags You Were Told to Ignore
Too often, we’re told that the uncomfortable parts of our cycles are “just part of being a woman.” PMS, painful periods, spotting, irregular bleeding, they’ve been normalised to the point where we barely question them.
But I want to be very clear here: these are not quirks to tolerate. They are your body’s way of asking for help.
If you’ve found yourself quietly wondering, Why am I not getting pregnant? Then it’s time to start listening more closely to what your cycle is trying to tell you, because these signs are important!
The Symptoms You’ve Been Told Are “Normal” But Aren’t
Let’s start with the basics.
If your periods are longer than five or six days, or so heavy that you’re leaking through sanitary products, doubling up, or flooding at night, that’s a red flag. And if they’re so painful that even a standard dose of painkillers doesn’t touch it, that’s another sign that something’s off.
These aren’t just inconvenient symptoms. They could be linked to:
Fibroids
Endometriosis
Adenomyosis
Thyroid issues
Anaemia
All of which can interfere with your ability to conceive naturally.
Have you noticed any spotting before your period starts? That might be a sign of low progesterone or a fragile endometrial lining. Both are absolutely worth exploring.
Then there’s ovulation. You might feel a little twinge; that’s normal. But you shouldn’t be doubled over in pain or seeing blood mid-cycle. That kind of disruption isn’t something to brush off.
And finally, let’s talk about vaginal health. This one is often overlooked, but it shouldn't! So, keep an eye out for these symptoms, which you should never experience:
Itching
Burning
Stinging
Ongoing discomfort, especially after sex or around your period
These symptoms may not block conception entirely, but they absolutely affect the internal environment your body needs to support a healthy pregnancy. If something feels off, it’s your body waving a flag, and it’s time to listen.
What to Do If You’re Noticing These Signs
What should you do if any of this sounds familiar? First of all, don’t ignore it!
If you’re experiencing any of these red flags, it’s time to take action. Start by booking an appointment with your GP or family doctor. If you have access to a fertility clinic, that would be even better.
You can and should request:
A transvaginal scan
A hormone test
A full blood panel
Or in some cases, even an MRI
Depending on what comes back, you’ll be in a much better position to understand what’s really going on. Remember, you’re not overreacting but advocating for yourself, and that matters.
Please don’t wait. These signs aren’t there to scare you; they’re there to guide you. And once you have clarity, it becomes so much easier to make the right choices for your body and your future.
If you’re still unsure how to spot or rule out red flags, don’t worry. In the course, I will walk you through it step by step so you won’t have to figure it out alone.
Clarity Is the First Step to Getting Pregnant Fast
So, how to get pregnant when all these things are going on?
You start by being honest with yourself. That’s what we do inside Conceive with Confidence. We go through each of these signs step by step, and I show you how to gather the information your body is already giving you, including how and when to request:
A transvaginal scan
Blood tests
Hormone panels
… and most importantly, how to interpret those results in the context of your entire fertility picture. Once you have that clarity, you can start to plan from a place of confidence rather than confusion.
Keep in mind that planning your pregnancy is not about perfection. It’s about understanding your cycle and knowing when something’s off. The sooner you tune in, the better your chances of correcting it early and naturally.
And yes, this is still part of how to get pregnant fast. The fastest path isn’t skipping these steps, but learning to read the signs so you can work with your body, not against it.
So, if you’ve been ignoring the signs you can’t get pregnant, or just didn’t realise they were signs in the first place, this is your invitation to look again, without fear or judgement. Often, the problem isn’t as big as you feared. But the longer it’s left unaddressed, the more confusing things can become.
Let’s clear that confusion because guess what? Your body is not broken. It’s communicating, and the problem might be easier to solve than you think.
How to Get Pregnant Naturally: Your 5-Pillar Fertility Action Plan
Getting pregnant isn’t just about your ovaries but your whole system. In Chinese medicine, fertility reflects the health of your blood, digestion, sleep, and emotional balance. When I support women over 35 in how to get pregnant, we always start here.
If you’re trying to conceive, these five areas deserve your attention. Not perfectly, just consistently.
1. Sleep and Fertility
You need a consistent 8 hours of sleep a night, ideally, 9 hours in bed to allow for wind-down time. Switch off screens at least an hour before bed and sleep in a dark room to support hormone production. Good sleep balances cortisol and helps regulate your cycle.
2. Fertility Nutrition
A fertile woman is a well-nourished woman. This isn’t about superfoods, it’s about consistent, home-cooked meals with:
At least 100g of quality protein per day
Plenty of healthy fats
Fibre and a rainbow of veg to support your gut microbiome
So forget fads and get back to basics. Trust me, your body will thank you for it.
3. Stress and Fertility
Stress is real, and it does affect ovulation and progesterone levels. But you don’t need a meditation retreat to fix it. You can relieve stress in simple ways, like:
Walking outside
Eating lunch away from your desk
Breathing between tasks
In the course, I help you build small, practical habits that lower stress day by day.
4. Exercise for Fertility
Movement is essential, but it has to match your cycle. It should be gentle during your period, stronger after ovulation, and consistent throughout. Regular movement supports circulation, hormone balance, and emotional clarity.
The key? Find something you enjoy and do it consistently.
5. Joy and Emotional Balance
This pillar is often overlooked, but it’s just as important. You weren’t designed to live in a constant state of tension. Whether it’s painting, dancing, or laughing with friends, joy calms your nervous system and sends your body the message: it’s safe to conceive.
Take the Next Step in Your Natural Fertility Journey
Trying for a baby can feel like wandering in the dark. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The knowledge I share in Conceive with Confidence is exactly what I wish I had at the beginning of my fertility journey. It’s science-backed, holistic, and delivered with the warmth of someone who’s been through it.
If you're ready to:
Understand your cycle
Time conception accurately
Decode your body’s signals
And create a personalised, natural fertility plan...
Then, I invite you to join me. Let’s get clear and confident and take the next step together.
Ready to stop guessing and start planning? Learn how to get pregnant naturally with Conceive with Confidence, and start making real, lasting changes to support your fertility on your terms. Enrol now.
With love,
Irena x
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